Jordan Peterson's 12 Rules for Life: A Practical Guide to Living a Meaningful Life, A Blog post by Michael D. Schoenfeldt

In Jordan Peterson's book "12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos" is a practical and insightful guidebook for anyone looking to live a meaningful and purposeful life. The book is a product of Peterson's decades-long experience as a clinical psychologist, professor, and public intellectual. Peterson uses his expertise to provide practical advice on how to navigate life's complexities, from personal responsibility to meaning, discipline, and freedom.

Each chapter of the book contains a rule, which is explained and illustrated through anecdotes and examples. Here, we will summarize each of the 12 rules and explain why we should implement them.

The first rule is to adopt a confident posture by standing up straight with your shoulders back. This posture conveys confidence and strength, which can improve your mood and interactions with others. It is also a physical manifestation of the idea that you are in control of your life. For example, if you are nervous about giving a presentation, adopting this posture can help you feel more confident and in control.

The second rule is to treat yourself with the same care and attention that you would give to someone you love and care for. This means taking care of your physical and mental health, setting boundaries, and pursuing goals that are important to you. It is easy to neglect our own needs to please others, but this can lead to burnout and resentment. By treating ourselves with kindness and compassion, we can improve our overall well-being and become more resilient in the face of challenges.

The third rule is to surround yourself with people who encourage and support your growth and development. These individuals will challenge you to be your best self and provide you with emotional support when you need it. It is important to choose friends who share your values and goals, as they will help you stay focused and motivated. For example, if you are trying to quit smoking, spending time with friends who are also trying to quit can provide you with the encouragement and support you need to succeed.

The fourth rule is to avoid comparing yourself to others and instead focus on your own progress and growth. This means setting achievable goals and tracking your progress over time. It is easy to become envious of others who seem to be doing better than us, but this can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. By focusing on our own progress, we can build our self-confidence and become more self-reliant.

The fifth rule is to set clear boundaries and expectations for your children and to hold them accountable for their behavior. This means teaching them right from wrong, setting limits on their behavior, and enforcing consequences when necessary. It is important to remember that children thrive in environments where they feel safe and secure, and where there are clear rules and expectations. By setting boundaries, we can help our children develop self-discipline and a sense of responsibility.

The sixth rule is to take responsibility for your own life and make the necessary changes to improve it before criticizing others or the world at large. This means identifying areas where you can make improvements and taking action to address them. It is easy to become frustrated with the world and the problems it presents, but by focusing on our own lives, we can become more self-sufficient and less reliant on external factors for our well-being.

The seventh rule is to pursue goals and activities that have a deeper meaning and purpose. This means taking responsibility for our lives and making choices that align with our values and goals, even if they require effort, sacrifice, or delay of gratification. It also means recognizing that what is meaningful to us may not always be the same as what is meaningful to others, and that we should not base our choices solely on external validation or societal expectations.

For example, let's say someone is faced with a choice between taking a high-paying job that they don't find fulfilling, or pursuing a lower-paying job that aligns with their passion and values. Choosing the high-paying job may seem expedient in the short term, but in the long term it may lead to dissatisfaction, burnout, or a sense of unfulfilled potential. Pursuing the lower-paying job, on the other hand, may require more effort and sacrifice, but may ultimately lead to a greater sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Peterson's seventh rule encourages us to reflect on what truly matters to us and to make choices that align with our values and goals. By pursuing what is truly meaningful, we can live a more fulfilling and purposeful life, and contribute to the greater good of society.

The eighth rule is to always tell the truth, or at the very least, refrain from lying. This means being honest with yourself and others, even when it is difficult or uncomfortable. Lying can have serious consequences, both for ourselves and for those around us. By telling the truth, we can build trust and integrity, which are essential for healthy relationships and a meaningful life.

The ninth rule is to approach every conversation and interaction with an open mind and a willingness to learn. This means actively listening to others and considering their perspectives, even if we disagree with them. It is easy to become defensive or dismissive when someone presents an idea that challenges our beliefs, but by remaining open-minded, we can expand our knowledge and understanding of the world.

The tenth rule is to use clear and precise language when communicating with others. This means avoiding vague or ambiguous language and being mindful of the words we choose. Clear communication is essential for effective problem-solving and relationship-building. By using precise language, we can avoid misunderstandings and ensure that our message is accurately conveyed.

The eleventh rule is to allow children to take risks and explore the world on their own terms. This means giving them the freedom to pursue their interests and passions, even if they seem unconventional or risky. It is important to remember that children need to experience failure and challenge to develop resilience and self-confidence. By allowing them to take risks and pursue their passions, we can help them develop into independent and self-reliant adults.

      The final rule is to take pleasure in the small joys of life, such as petting a cat or enjoying a beautiful sunset. This means being mindful of the present moment and appreciating the beauty and wonder of the world around us. It is easy to become so focused on our goals and responsibilities that we forget to enjoy the simple pleasures of life. By taking time to appreciate these small joys, we can cultivate gratitude and a sense of fulfillment in our lives.

 In conclusion, Jordan Peterson's "12 Rules for Life" provides a practical and insightful guide to living a meaningful and purposeful life. These rules are based on Peterson's decades-long experience as a clinical psychologist and professor, and offer valuable advice on personal responsibility, meaning, discipline, and freedom. By implementing these rules in our own lives, we can cultivate resilience, self-confidence, and a sense of purpose.

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TMIY - Redefining Positive Masculinity

The modern man appears to have his life figured out. At his disposal is unlimited information, but he’s still ill-informed of the ways of men. He is constantly bombarded with conflicting advice on masculinity that expose him to numerous modern challenges. Fortunately, several not-for-profits exist to guide him through the unique challenges and temptations of the modern world. One such initiative is That Man Is You (TMIY).

TMIY draws from teachings of the Catholic faith and evidence-based practices to address the unique challenges facing modern men. It gives men the tools to transform themselves into authentically masculine men capable of leading their families and communities.

In a world devoid of authentic masculinity, where men are required to “man up,” a disconnect exists between what is expected of them and what they are realistically capable of. Men are expected to fit into a narrow set of traditional roles, the “act like a man box.”

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The misconceptions surrounding masculinity today blur the line between positive masculinity and toxic masculinity, making the war against the latter hard to win. What it means to be a man today is naturally different from what it meant 50 years ago.

TMIY shows the modern man the right way. It demystifies the myths and misconceptions that threaten to lead men astray, not just from their families and societies but also from God.

TMIY shows men the way to positive masculinity. Men learn how to process and express their emotions and connect and empathize, all skills that determine the depth of their relationships with others.

The group also encourages men to have deeper conversations with others. It tells men that it’s okay to talk about sports or cars, as like-minded men connect through such talk.

There’s a sweeping shift regarding what is considered masculine. TMIY recognizes that times have changed. It then incorporates religious faith and science into its programs, providing men with actionable, proven ways to be fully alive, not to walk through life blindfolded. Rather than dish out dos and don’ts of masculinity, TMIY provides men with an evidence-based framework to break free from the man box.